Good kids don’t listen and it’s not what you think

When your child doesn’t respond you can feel instantly frustrated

Yes mums - you all know what this is like!!

You ask once. Nothing.

You ask again. Still nothing.

By the third time, you tense, your tone has changed, and you are wondering why something so simple feels so hard.

This was me - every day !!

If this is you, you are not doing it wrong.

You are responding like a normal human under pressure.

Most mums I work with are not simply annoyed because their child is slow.

It’s more than this

They are frustrated because it feels like they are being ignored, disrespected, or pushed to the edge when they already have too much on their plate.

And when you are juggling work, time, busyness, mess, and mental load, slow responses can feel personal.

I always took it personally.

Surely if they loved me or even cared then they would behave!

Let’s use Whole Needs Parenting©

Firstly -

Why does frustration build so quickly

When we understand this - it’s changes you.

Believe me !!

When a child does not respond, a mum often feels:

• unseen

• unheard

• unimportant

• out of control

• disrespected

Those feelings matter.

Whole Needs Parenting© recognises this.

Most parenting advice focuses on getting the child to comply faster.

This just adds to your frustration !

Whole Needs Parenting© has a different focus and this makes all the difference.

One problem is that children are not wired to respond to instructions the way adults are.

When a child is slow, there is a reason - it is often because:

• they are deeply focused on something else

• they need time to shift attention

• they feel disconnected from you in that moment

• they are unsure what you want

• their nervous system is overloaded

Important point : This is not defiance.

It is capacity.

Never the less - you need them to do it. Don’t you? I certainly did.

So let’s focus on how to reduce your frustration before changing anything else.

Ask yourself :

• Am I already running on empty?

• Am I asking from urgency ?

• Do I feel listened to in my day at all?

This is not about being calmer on purpose.

It is about being supported enough to not tip over.

Here’s where Whole Needs Parenting© comes in and changes the dynamic

This shift alone reduces daily friction without forcing anything.

This new approach helps long term, not just today

we want children to develop:

• better emotional regulation

• stronger listening skills

• internal motivation rather than fear based compliance

• respect that is mutual, not demanded

And we want us mums to experience:

• less daily frustration

• fewer power struggles

• more ease in communication

• a sense that they are not constantly pushing uphill

Whole Needs Parenting© is not about doing more.

So

If slow responses trigger you more than you would like to admit, you are not alone.

This is not a patience problem.

It is a relationship and needs issue.

And those can be supported, understood, and shifted without turning you into a different parent.

You do not need to shout less or try harder.

You need a framework that works with both of you.

That is what whole needs parenting offers.

Message Vanessa now and get a personal response for your situation