Stop having the same argument.
Work out what's really going on.
When the same arguments keep happening, it's usually about more than the argument itself. I'll help you untangle what's really happening, understand what's underneath it, and work out what needs to change.
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Four steps to get to the heart of what's really happening.
Be the Lawyer: What Really Happened?
When you're in the middle of an argument, it's easy to see your version as the truth and the other person's as wrong.
We'll step back from who's right and look at what actually happened from both perspectives. You'll learn how to take the heat out of a situation before it turns into another fight.
Shooting the Messenger: What's Really Triggering You?
The reaction isn't always about what's happening right now.
Using the Russian Doll exercise, we'll look underneath the surface reaction to work out what's really driving it, and identify the patterns that keep making things worse.
What Do You Really Want?
It's easy to know what you're angry about. It's harder to know what you actually need.
We'll cut through the frustration and get to what's underneath it, so you can understand what you really want and what needs to change.
How Do You Ask for It?
Knowing what you need is one thing. Being able to say it without starting another argument is another.
We'll work out how to express what you need clearly, without blame or criticism, and find ways of communicating that actually work in real life.
You don't need both partners to start.
You can begin making a difference to your relationship even if your partner isn't ready to be part of the process.
Let's talk about what's happening, work out what's really going on, and see what you can do about it.
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