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When ‘fixing’ becomes the problem
It’s almost never actually about the dishes.
It’s rarely just about the sleep.
And the stress isn't always about the work.
Our minds are brilliant at creating believable stories about why we feel the way we do and then convincing us to waste all our energy solving the wrong thing.
In When Fixing Becomes the Problem, I share why surface-level solutions keep failing us, and the surprising shift that actually brings real relief.
Life Mentoring
2 min read
Why Being "Unmindful" Might Save Your Brain
We are constantly told to stay present, aware, and mindful, but could the pressure to be constantly conscious actually be burning us out?
From a Whole Needs perspective, mindless scrolling or zoning out isn't always laziness, it might be your brain signaling a desperate need to rest, process, and lower demands.
Discover why "mindlessness" might actually be the missing piece of your nervous system reset, how to distinguish rest from avoidance, and why doing nothing is doin
Life Mentoring
2 min read


You Adore Your Children… So Why Doesn’t Motherhood Feel Good?
If you feel unhappy - this might be why.
For example - you love your children with everything you have.
Or your relationship
Or your job
Yet, you find yourself feeling constantly overwhelmed, irritated, or completely wiped out, even on the good days.
You try to push it away. You tell yourself you should just be grateful. But the feeling stays.
There is a specific reason it feels this way, and it has nothing to do with how much you love your kids, or your relationship or
Life Mentoring
3 min read


Are children really the problem? (Hint: it’s not the parents either)
It’s hard in today world for parents and children. Parents have stresses and yet are expected to bring up stress free resilient children. This article covers how we can do this from our own place of overwhelm and pressure.
Life Mentoring
3 min read


Why giving choices to kids is wrong
Why choices can be wrong in parenting and what to do instead.
Life Mentoring
3 min read


Teens ….listening…..bedtime …help!
Teens don’t seem to listen. And they dont want to go to bed. Constant nagging and often arguments ensue. Turn this around with these tips..
Life Mentoring
4 min read
Stopping your reactions
How to stop yourself reacting and over reacting.
Life Mentoring
3 min read
From the outside, you’re handling everything. Inside…..
You’re doing too much.
You’re not superhuman. Where’s it all going wrong
And what can you do about it.
This articles makes it clear.
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway? Here’s Why It Backfires
Feel fear? “Do it anyway” often backfires. Learn how small steps, empathy, and safety help kids and adults build real courage.
Life Mentoring
3 min read
What really makes people difficult
Someone peope have difficult behaviour. Adults and kids alike . What do we do when this happens
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Do you know what you need to do?
Ever wonder why you aren’t doing what you need or want to do?
Curious as to what’s keeping you stuck?
Life Mentoring
2 min read
Lacking patience
how to understand why your patience feels so thin If you were sitting here with me and you said, “I feel like my patience has gone. I keep snapping and I hate myself for it,” the first thing I want you to hear is this… There is nothing wrong with you. I’ll say it again… there is nothing wrong with you. I know it feels like you’re failing. Like you should be calmer. Like you should be handling things better. But the truth is… this happens to so many mums. And here’s the thing…
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Wanting to be happy and confident
Many parents have the fear that their kids might not grow up happy and confident. “I am worried my kids will not be happy.” “I am worried they will lack confidence.” “I am worried I am messing this up.” “I am worried my kids will be stressed and anxious.” This concern is not dramatic. It is not negative thinking. It is real. It is valid. When you care deeply about your child’s future, your mind naturally scans for risk. It imagines outcomes. It tries to prevent pain before it
Life Mentoring
2 min read
Exhaustion
How to understand why you are so tired even when you are getting some sleep If you are a mum who feels permanently drained, foggy, snappy, or emotionally flat, it is probably not because you are failing, lazy, or bad at coping. It is because your brain is carrying far too many open loops. An open loop is anything unfinished, undecided, unresolved, or waiting. The message you still need to reply to. The behaviour you are worried about but have not addressed. The conversation y
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Pressure as a parent - to return to ‘normal’
How to reset. A busy season starts to recede. How do you get back on top?
Life Mentoring
2 min read
Removing negativity
How to understand negativity without trying to fix it I recently listened to Arthur C. Brooks talk about happiness, and something really struck me that I had not fully absorbed before. Negativity is not a problem to solve. It is not a failure of mindset, motivation, or discipline. It is part of being human. ( We are hardwired to be alert for ‘negative’ for our survival) Negativity also refers to uncomfortable internal states like sadness, irritability, frustration, anxiety, g
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Ready for change
Ready for change? Parenting and relationships can shift - when you make this change
Life Mentoring
1 min read
Others’ opinions
Others opinions
Life Mentoring
6 min read
Eliminate conflict - everyone is right!
We often think one person is right. Therefore the others are wrong. This demonstration, with an object, shows how everyone can be certain...
Life Mentoring
1 min read
Core Emotional Needs
(other needs stem from these) Connection Consistency Significance Variety Contribution Growth and learning Connection Affection...
Life Mentoring
1 min read
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