Hello from Vanessa!

I am Vanessa, and I bring over a decade of dedicated experience to the profound task of guiding individuals in reshaping their lives with a specific focus on parenting.

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Commencing with a degree in Psychology, my professional journey has evolved to encompass qualifications in Life Coaching, Solution-Based Counselling, and Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Hypnosis.

 

Despite the broadening of my expertise, psychology - with a specific emphasis on understanding human behavior - remains my central passion.= which I use to help families in their parenting.

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Who am I really?

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Recently I was asked to talk....

 

I finished my presentation, and a gentleman piped up with:

 

“I don’t mean to rip you apart, but when you started, I thought, ‘Here we go again…’ 

 

It wasn’t until you told us about you and your story that I could understand, ‘Who you are to tell us…?’”

 

So, here’s my story. 

 

So you can understand who I am and why I help mums like you.

 

I was a mum of three, pregnant with my fourth, when my world completely shattered—my husband passed away.

 

Overnight, I was thrown into solo parenting, drowning in grief while trying to hold everything together for my kids. The weight of responsibility was unbearable, and I had no idea how I was going to cope.

 

But one thing was clear: I couldn’t let his death destroy five more lives, including my own.

 

At first, I was in pure survival mode.

 

My children, struggling with their own grief, acted out in ways I wasn’t equipped to handle.

 

I was beyond exhausted—my youngest didn’t sleep for more than two hours at a time for 42 nights, and I was still pregnant.

The days blurred into one long battle.

I felt like I was losing myself.

There was no time, no energy, and certainly no space to even think about what I needed.

My life had shrunk to just getting through each hour.

 

Then came the doubts.

Could I really do this alone?

What would people think if I couldn’t manage?

What if I failed my kids?

I could not pay money for myself to make tings easier, and I felt guilty even thinking about it.

There was always something more urgent, more pressing. It felt impossible.

 

And then, in one of my darkest moments, I realized—no one was coming to rescue me. If things were going to change, it had to start with me. There was no perfect time to get my life back.

 

So, I started small.

The first shift happened when I changed how I handled my son’s behavior.

It was a tiny win, but it gave me something I hadn’t felt in a long time—hope.

From there, I carved out small moments to focus on myself, even when it felt impossible.

Eventually, I took a bold step—I set up a charity.

That charity gave me a purpose beyond motherhood.

It reminded me that I was still a person, not just someone drowning in responsibility.

 

One step at a time, I clawed my way back.

It wasn’t easy. In fact it was extremely hard and I do not wish this on anyone.

I had to fight past the belief that I didn’t have enough time, that I couldn’t give to myself, that I was already too overwhelmed to take on one more thing.

But the truth was, doing nothing was the most overwhelming thing of all.

 

What Happens If You Don’t Get on Top of This?

 

I see it all the time—mums putting themselves last, telling themselves they’ll deal with it later. 

But later never comes. 

The exhaustion builds. 

The resentment creeps in.

The kids push more boundaries. 

The guilt eats away at you because deep down, you know you’re not being the mum—or the person—you want to be. 

And it doesn’t just go away on its own.

 

I learned the hard way that waiting until you hit rock bottom isn’t an option.

And you don’t have to lose your partner or be in full crisis to realize something needs to change.

You might have one child.

You might have a partner.

You might look like you’re holding it together on the outside.

But if you’re constantly overwhelmed, stretched thin, and feeling like you’re losing yourself—that’s your sign.

It doesn’t have to get worse before you do something about it.

 

Why Am I Telling You This?

 

Because I know exactly how it feels to be stuck, lost, and exhausted.

I know how easy it is to believe that change is for other people—people with more time, more money, more support.

But I also know, firsthand, that there’s a way through.

 

Twelve years ago, I qualified as a parenting coach, and four years ago, as a life coach.

Helping mums get their lives back—without waiting for the perfect time—is what I love most.

And when they not only change their own lives but start sharing what they’ve learned with others, that’s when I know they’ve truly mastered it.

 

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or barely keeping your head above water, you’re not alone.

And you don’t have to do it alone.

There’s a way forward—one small step at a time.

The real question is: how much longer are you willing to wait?

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Today, I confidently assert that I am among the most content individuals I know.

 

Throughout this period, my commitment is to supporting parents in addressing challenges associated with child behavior, empowering them to navigate their parenting journey with confidence and reclaim personal space. Immediate success translates to instant relief.

And it has extended to offering mentorship and guidance to adults navigating challenging phases, facilitating transformative change by adjusting behaviors and unwanted emotions.

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Equipped with practical tools and informed by my own life experiences, I have successfully translated my skills and knowledge into a thriving business.

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My professional focus centers on assisting others, delivering straightforward tools and manageable steps to untangle what may initially appear as a complex life.

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I am enthusiastic about extending this support to you as well.