Have you been in a difficult situation? Maybe an unpleasant feeling or experience.
I was in a difficult situation a month ago.
I was accused of something.
And I reacted.
I couldn’t stop myself.
Does that happen to you too?
Then I tried to stop my reaction and think about the appropriate way forward.
That's hard though - when you are in reaction mode - you are using the wrong side of your brain.
It's hard to get into the logical side.
It was the same when I was feeling frustrated with my daughter.
I was annoyed in fact.
And I just wanted to let my feelings out - so she knew how I felt about it.
I realised though, that wouldn't help.
So I kept them under wraps.
However I couldn't work out how to proceed.
And that was frustrating.
So I had frustration on top of frustration!
And then that was frustrating.
I did it wrong in the end - I let my frustration out!
Have you had a similar situation?
Did you react ?
Now that the event has passed, I can think about it logically.
This means that next time I'm in a similar situation I have a plan.
A plan that I can't come up with when I'm in the middle of it.
I'm happy - because next time I will do better.
Better means that I don't react and I get a desirable outcome.
Do you reflect afterwards?
Do you come up with a plan?
This is how I help parents when we are improving parenting.
This is how I help clients when improving their lives.
You can message me now for help with this.