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Parents Are Being Asked to Do the Impossible.
Parents Are Being Asked to Do the Impossible
Parents are often told that struggling means they are doing something wrong.
But what if the problem isn’t you?
Modern life is fast, distracted, and overwhelming, while parenting requires presence, patience, and connection.
This mismatch creates exhaustion and guilt for many parents.
When we see this clearly, we stop self-blame and start understanding why parenting feels so hard right now.
Life Mentoring
3 min read


We’ve Normalised Punishment So Much We Call It Parenting
Many parents are using punishments.
Often taking things away from the child.
This is a parent attempt at control and is not the best parenting.
Natural consequences are better, however parents often try to created natural consequences and they become punishment administered by the parent. This affects both the child’s learning and the parent child bond. This article is about what you can do instead.
Life Mentoring
2 min read


Are children really the problem? (Hint: it’s not the parents either)
It’s hard in today world for parents and children. Parents have stresses and yet are expected to bring up stress free resilient children. This article covers how we can do this from our own place of overwhelm and pressure.
Life Mentoring
3 min read


Why giving choices to kids is wrong
Why choices can be wrong in parenting and what to do instead.
Life Mentoring
3 min read


You are ‘telling’ your kids they can’t do it….
You’re too busy to do it all yourself, what are you ‘telling’ your child if you do it for them and what are they learning?
Life Mentoring
2 min read


Teens ….listening…..bedtime …help!
Teens don’t seem to listen. And they dont want to go to bed. Constant nagging and often arguments ensue. Turn this around with these tips..
Life Mentoring
4 min read
Stopping your reactions
How to stop yourself reacting and over reacting.
Life Mentoring
3 min read
From the outside, you’re handling everything. Inside…..
You’re doing too much.
You’re not superhuman. Where’s it all going wrong
And what can you do about it.
This articles makes it clear.
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway? Here’s Why It Backfires
Feel fear? “Do it anyway” often backfires. Learn how small steps, empathy, and safety help kids and adults build real courage.
Life Mentoring
3 min read
What really makes people difficult
Someone peope have difficult behaviour. Adults and kids alike . What do we do when this happens
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Do you know what you need to do?
Ever wonder why you aren’t doing what you need or want to do?
Curious as to what’s keeping you stuck?
Life Mentoring
2 min read
Running late again?
Why You’re Always Running Late (And It’s Not Your Fault) I have many friends who have tried so hard…. Tried to not be late So I know it - you try. You really do. You set alarms, even go so far as to plan the night before, try to leave earlier than you think you need to. And yet, somehow, you’re late yet again. And when you feel you’ve failed yet again - it just shows you it’s not worth all the effort of trying . If this sounds familiar, it’s easy to beat yourself up. But what
Life Mentoring
4 min read
Staying in bed
Bedtime battles - you don’t have a bedtime issue. You have a ‘needs’ issue.
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Children not listening
When your child doesn’t listen - small steps and simple tweaks to turn this around and reduce your stress.
Life Mentoring
2 min read
Kids and tidying - why is it so hard
Getting clear on why tidying doesn’t happen
Life Mentoring
1 min read
Lacking patience
how to understand why your patience feels so thin If you were sitting here with me and you said, “I feel like my patience has gone. I keep snapping and I hate myself for it,” the first thing I want you to hear is this… There is nothing wrong with you. I’ll say it again… there is nothing wrong with you. I know it feels like you’re failing. Like you should be calmer. Like you should be handling things better. But the truth is… this happens to so many mums. And here’s the thing…
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Exhaustion
How to understand why you are so tired even when you are getting some sleep If you are a mum who feels permanently drained, foggy, snappy, or emotionally flat, it is probably not because you are failing, lazy, or bad at coping. It is because your brain is carrying far too many open loops. An open loop is anything unfinished, undecided, unresolved, or waiting. The message you still need to reply to. The behaviour you are worried about but have not addressed. The conversation y
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Removing negativity
How to understand negativity without trying to fix it I recently listened to Arthur C. Brooks talk about happiness, and something really struck me that I had not fully absorbed before. Negativity is not a problem to solve. It is not a failure of mindset, motivation, or discipline. It is part of being human. ( We are hardwired to be alert for ‘negative’ for our survival) Negativity also refers to uncomfortable internal states like sadness, irritability, frustration, anxiety, g
Life Mentoring
3 min read
Independent Play
Why It’s Hard and How to Help I remember a mum once telling me that she couldn’t even load the dishwasher without her toddler tugging at...
Life Mentoring
2 min read
Mum - have a break! How?
How Do Mums Get a Break? When I was snowed under, being a busy mum, I needed a break. Desperately I thought a break meant getting away...
Life Mentoring
3 min read
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