This can be a problem
You have goals
You know how to goal set
But you aren't achieving them
We all know the pains involved with this.
You don’t need to be a procrastinator to have this problem
High achievers may have this problem too
People pleasers may get distracted from their goal by pleasing others
Avoiders and perfectionists can also struggle
So you're not the only one
It’s hard work
Many people are setting goals but not getting there
Forcing yourself daily
Beating yourself up over it constantly
Always that feeling that you need to do more
Need to do better
You’re not doing well enough
Do you feel that motivation is your issue?
I was in sales for a while. That is goal driven.
You are given a target
You aim to achieve it
You work hard. (Ridiculously hard)
If you don’t hit the target then you beat yourself up
If you do hit your target then you celebrate…..
But not for long
Because then along comes another target
And guess what - its higher
We reflect this in our daily lives.
The target needs to be hard….
Hard enough to work towards but not so hard that you won't achieve it
If it's too hard to achieve you feel demotivated (maybe even a failure and not good enough)
If you achieve it, then the joy of success is short lived.
Because then you start again
and have to push yourself
So where’s your reward ?
This in itself can become demotivating.
It's a never ending cycle of trying to achieve a goal
So do you ever win?
And how does this cycle make you feel?
My goals are always a direction
The direction is always forwards, of course
It isn't defined and specific, or time based, or measurable.
How then does one achieve goals if they are so vague
That isn't what we are taught
This means it is driven on motivation alone
How then do you maintain motivation
Motivation was your problem in the beginning wasn’t it
(If it wasn't then you wouldn’t be feeling you need to goal set in the first place!)
Here’s an example
“I think I should get fit by the time I’m 30”
Will this goal work?
No? And the reason is not because it isn't SMART but because it has the word “should”.
Just read that again. It’s the word ‘should’ that’s the problem.
Bear with me here…..
Are you struggling with motivation?
Then this is where you need to start:
Start with ‘fixing’ your motivation
Before you start to set the goal!
I have the secret to becoming motivated.
It works for everyone
And it's very simple.
So, in summary - get MOTIVATED then you don’t need the pain of goal setting and forcing yourself to achieve them.
If you want to know the one simply secret - contact me.
Tell me what you want motivation on and I’ll show you the key that will work for everything in your life.