Someone gave me some parenting advice recently.
They told me what NOT to do.
Deciding to go along with that suggested idea (although in itself a good idea) left me with no strategy. They didn’t suggest what to do instead.
How often in life do we consider what we shouldn’t do, yet do not have a replacement strategy.
Remember, all behaviour either gives us something we want, fulfils a need, has an aim or a reward.
We may have behaviours which aren’t healthy and which we may wish to eliminate.
However we need a replacement strategy or behaviour- in order to still fulfil the need.
Otherwise it will not be sustainable.
So next time you wish to change a behaviour: Consider the long term.
Consider the replacement.
Lasting change is what we are after .